bidhir bidhan kobhu khandaiyete naari

Class 10 and it was my Bengali poetry book, a part of curriculum where I had found the line.The name of the poem was "Raavan badh", "the annihilation of demon Raavan" by Lord Ram as in Hindu Mythology. Quite a number literary pieces of art has been written by various poets time immemorial and they have been part of different curriculums in different contexts. I have read quite a few and even heard a few as told by my loving grandma in the night story sessions. I particularly remember this poem theme especially because of the quoted line that forms the title of my passage- "bidhir bidhan kobhu khandaiyete naari". It translates to "one cannot change fate" not even the most powerful man or woman. They say even God is bound by fate as decided at the birth of an individual.Everything is pre-decided and we just follow the path towards it.
Not only Indian mythology, even in the hollywood blockbuster "Matrix" the "Oracle" who is potrayed as a character who can predict anything, tells the character "Neo", "you have already made the choice, you are just trying to reason it now". A direct interpretation of the saying. History has time again proved it. Every rise of a nation or an individual was timed and so was his or her fall.Life has time again proved it to me too.
Successes allure us,failures deter us, happiness enthuses us while sorrow brings us to ask the question "Why did this happen to me? What have I done to deserve such pain". Every human asks this question once or more times in their life; a theist asks God, an agonist asks silence while the atheist asks his or her ego. But rarely do we get an answer that satisfies our heart and mind. Parents say "All that happpened was for good", well wishers say "God is testing you", the protagonist says "It will make you stronger" while still others say nothing but sympathize; I believe "even if we do not like it, we have to bear it, it's written". In the poem the scene that unfolds is that it was decided that Ram would kill Raavan and so was he; all his great powers, the blessings of his prayers to God could not change the moment that was fixed for his death.
I have time and often asked this question when I lost something I loved most or when I was betrayed or when I met failure when I needed success the most. There was no answer; there is no answer but yes these situations and circumstances are what frames ones character and strengths; to shape an iron you have to put in alternate red heat to melt it and then in cold water to mould it; so to shape a person, life has to make him or her pass through crests of happiness and the troughs of sorrow to mould the individual, fate had decided to fulfill the purpose of his or her birth. So everything happens for a purpose, a purpose already pre-decided and pre-determined........life shows you the path but you have to walk it, there lies the pain,the excitement, the happiness, the failures, the choices.....as the legendary character Morpheus tells Neo in Matrix - "There is a difference between showing the path and walking the path". So accept life in all positivity and walk the path shown ahead to find and fulfil the purpose for which you were sent in this life, make better and positive use of every turns,speed breakers and potholes that the path has to define yourself; find something to achieve larger than life.